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her good day; never forgetting in so doing to raise you
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WALKING Toomriiue.-In promenading in the street, a lady
should always have the inside, so as to keep the mud and
slush thrown up by carriage wheels from off her; and also,
because the inside is the safest.
A gentleman should at all times offer the lady his arm,
because their locomotion will be all the better for it, as they
can keep step; and if the gentleman‘s steps are too lengthy,
they can compromise very soon, by the lady stepping a
little quicker, and her companion a little slower.
Wiio SIIoI7Ln ENTER FIRST.-rThe door should be held open
by the gentleman, and the lady or ladies enter before he
does.
THE S'l‘AlRS.rv-The lady should be always last in going up,
and first in coming down stairs.
STANDING ox CORNERS. -Gentleman ought not to stand on
hotel steps and street corners and gaze at ladies as they pass;
but still they do it, and the only way I know of to break
them of that habit is, to marry and reform them.
WHERE ASSISTANCE is PoLI'rr.Nr:ss.-VVhen seeing a lady
friend carrying a bundle of any kind, offer your services as
amateur porter, and your assistance will be appreciated.
WI-‘IIN ALL ALONE. -A lady never talks or laughs loud after
meeting a friend on the street. She only greets them with
words of kindness spoken in a low tone of voice, and then
departs on her mission in an unassuming and gentle way;
ind never hears or sees anything that she should not see or
ear.
MAKING Niawv Fim=.iNr>a -Attracting the attention of gentle-
men is not the proper role for a lady to play; and an acquain-
tance formed in such a way, is not the thing.
MASOULINE A-rrr:N'rIvi:N1ss.eAlways accept such attentions
with good grace, but never request them.
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CHAPTER SEVENTH.
POLITINISS REQUIRED IN TRAVELING, i>I:IvING, on RIDING.
ANY lady can travel from one end of the Union to the
other, alone, and never be insulted, providing she respects
herself in respecting others; but there are always some who
are timid and afraid to walk the length of the street alone;
and, of course, such ladies require a male companion.
THE Gr.NrLimAN‘s DU1‘Y.“Vl1eneVeT a lady is placed in his
charge for a trip, he ought tobe in time to get her baggage
checked, before the train arrives.
The tickets can be purchased with the funds of the gentle-
man and a settlement made afterwards; or the lady may re-
quest him to take her pocket-book and pay the expenses out
of it.
The gentleman should then pick out a seat in the center of
the car, and not over the wheels, and then allow the lady to
sit by the window or not, just as she fancies, and after put-
ting iill her little knicknacs in a proper place, take a seat
beside her.
When their railroad journey is ended, he should leave her
in the ladies‘ waiting-rooin, and when a carriage is found,
conduct her to it, and entering after her, go with her as far
as her friend’s house, and leave her until the. following day,
when he should call and inquire after her health. If the
lady is well-bred, she will be glad to see him, and after invit-
ing him in the house, introduce him to her friends, and
make his stay as pleasant as possible.
A lady can make it very annoying to the gentleman travel-
ing witli her, by asking all sorts of foolish questions; an
appearing very nervous, and wondering if her things are all
safe, and telling him, every now and then, that she is dread-
fully afraid the horrid cars will run off the track. All such
nonsense will disgust a man.
A lady should have as few hand packages as possible, and
when put away, she should leave it alone until the journey is
ended. When nearing the end, she will get all of her bag-
gage together, including books and papers, and not be in
any hurry when leaving the car.
WHEN TRAVELING ALONK.rWhen a lady is traveling all
alone, whatever favors are offered by fellow travelers, should
be accepted with thanks. In fact, a gentleman seeing a lady
alonewill offer his services in any way he can without trying
to become too familiar.
Nevertheless, ladies should learn to wait upon themselves;
and young ladies traveling by themselves should very rarely
accent offers of assistance from strangers.
, with books or papers, he she
Lwishes to return, he
FILLING Ur rm: SEATS. (VVhen in a crowded car, a lady will
never occupy two seats, but will. in good humor, so dispose
of her packages, that the seat beside her will be free for any-
body in want of it.
A well-bred lady will never tip the seat over in front of her
and fill it up with bundles, retaining it, although she can tell
very well, from the looks of the passengers, that the seat is
needed. ‘Vlien anything like this happens, a stranger is
justified in moving the baggage, reversing the seat, and
holding on to the vacant chair. An ill-bred lady may make
some unpleasant remark, but never mind, as you have right
on your side.
HOLDING ON TO A SEAT.-When traveling, a person may
take a seat and leave it in charge of a companion, or claim
it by leaving his wrapper or bag upon it, while he goes after
tickets or anything else. This isa recognized sign of the
seat being engaged; but he cannot leave that seat with his
packages on it and find another In the forward car. He is
gpilywentitled to one seat, and must give up one or the
XVhen a lady is seen standing up, a gentleman is not com-
pelled to give her his seat, as the conductor is in duty bound
to find a seat for her.
STREET CARS.‘The case is entirely different in street cars
for no lady should be permitted to stand up. ’
FERRY BoA'rs.fThe ladies’ saloon on ferry boats belongs
exclusively to them, and no gentleman will intrude and
occupy the seats while a lady stands.
SMoiz'1NG. -In the presence of ladies, smoking should be
prohibited; as there is not one out of ten ladies who can
stand the smoke from a cigar, as it makes them sick and on
this account alone gentleman ought to be a. little thought.
ful.
IJADIES AND LADIES.mIl7 is ’ ht d
ladies to look after younger oliligs, whleln tII‘)&l).‘t(7)igll3Ill‘gt[.i?ll(.)ng1d(::]‘i(y1'
to keep them from being lonely. Words of cheerfilli-1955
shou-1 be addressed them, and they should become the
particular charge of the matronly lady. A lady of this kind
can at times be of great assistance in giving information or
advise; and 9-I1Y1&dY Of traveling experience should feel it
ggfadgtaybtgiuiict the part of a gentleman when none of that
LOOK Our FOR Ornims’ Comroizr.-N -
a. boat or steam car without asking [)‘::‘:;l(;gf)llll gfdigizoon
sitting near it; for what may be a comfort to on I 3-
death to them, and the best way to do is to take 53 magi. 8
as it comes, without grumbling, and you’, good h Very "lg
relieve many of the discoiiiforts of traveling. umor W1
Ho'ri:I.s AND STEAMBOA‘1‘S.v- VVI , t -
will rusli to the table and liel[>)EhIiinsr;ltY%]1i?Ebu
for some lady traveling alone. The Ina 1 ] - .
pospessed oflgooil ‘breeding. There is Illel:Vei‘0i(tI(i);S :(:e]5
f-5Zr‘$niia:3$n"Efl$$"g’$ZS “lei” ‘S ““”Y% Plenty of time for
' . . 3 . 611 1'01‘ cave a car in a genteel maiiiicr,
without intruding on the right of others At ll ‘
attend to the ladies and aged people befoi.e' mi '11 . flgueii
yourself; and, if crossing a ferry, or in strget-c‘ ‘un or
friend protests against. you paying ti“. hr‘, let IE2" 1313166
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r1e1;5lu(.;‘l;VlIlt11t::'1tf)I"?uVlv)O)"]..&3.ll iiitaiis, and at some other time you can
no gentleman
t looking out
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(. VUIII E TII.wiiI.ING. Vylhien a gentleman ES provlded
Ii < irst offer it to lll.‘-l compan-
ions, and if refiiseil, he can read himself ‘ ' '
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' . leaving his friends
to do its they choose.
Tm: SI-:A'r or Hoxoitaln a carria
the right lHl.H(l, facing the horses whicl ‘ h .
liostess, who is never expected tn ; C I I-8 t 9 Wait of we
ought always to give this seat to a 1531‘; aliid a[(J;'n.t‘l‘ime-r;-
invited; but if not, he must face the lady VVh9n(:.I,1%:1,-(jig. la,
round andagentleman shoialle llhe necessity of turning
step oh or train l l l‘ H 8 very careful and not
: P 6. a lady s dress.
IN AI.IoII1'INo Fl . ' C ‘
be the first to leax'<e)‘t[li<:IIc1i1rri‘:gI:3lAf3i5engthih
in doing so. If there is a serxfant with
can hold the door 0 , b t .
the ladies in gettingpcfililt. Ilh ei1ht(I]’eriiE?Egnli.le(I3'z:.’I?ir‘li8.gI]e1l1sttlieaggisit
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and the gentleman tnoszhiiii" .$:“:...‘:f '“:::1.3:
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he must first get out’ ‘mdettli; carif-iage before a gentleman,
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8'9. the seat of honor is on