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CHEAPEST LIBRARY EVER ISSUED.—PUBLISHED SEMI-WEEKLY.—BY SUBSCRIPTION, PER YEAR, 104 NUMBERS, $4.50.—JULY 30TH, 1884,
Entered at the Post-Office at New York for Transmission through the Mails at Second Class Rates.
sounen.t Price & Cents.
F. M. LUPTON, Publisher,
G3 Murray St,, New York.
New Series.--Vol. I.--No. D2.
MAN UF
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QUETTE
For Ladies and Gentlemen.
Part LEtiquette For Ladies.
Outdoor Etiquette.
WueEn three ladies are walking together, it is
better for one to keep a little in advance of the
other two, than for all three to persist in main-
taming one unbroken line. They cannot all join
in conversation without talking across each other
—a thing that, in-doors or out-of-doors, is awk-
ward, inconvenient, ungenteel, and should
always be avoided. Also, three ladies walking
abreast occupy too much of the pavement, and,
therefore, incommode the other passengers. If
shy meet a lady with whom you have become
ut slightly acquainted, and had merely a little
conversation (for instance, at a party ora morn-
ing visit), and who moves ina circle somewhat
higher or more fashionable than your own, it is
proper to wait till she recognizes you. Let her
not see in you a disposition to obtrude yourself
on her notice.
It is not expected that all intimacies formed at
watering-places should continue after the parties
have returned to their homes. A mutual bow
when meeting in the street is sufficient; but
there is no interchanging of visits unless ladies
have, before parting, testified a desire to con-
tinue the acquaintance. In this case the lady
who is the senior, or palpably highest in station,
makes the first call. .It is not customary for a
Fons lady to make the first visit toa married
ady.
When meeting them in the street, always
speak first to your milliner, seamstress, or to
any one yeu have been in the habit of employing.
To pass without notice servants whom you know
is rude and unfeeling, and they will attribute it
to pride, not presuming to speak to you them-
selves unless in reply. There are persons who,
having accepted, when in the country, much
kindness from the country people, are ashamed
to recognize them when they come to town on
account of their rustic or unfashionable attire.
This is vulgar and contemptible, and is always
scen through and Jespised. Those to be avoided
are such as wear tawdry finery, paint their faces
and leer, looking graceless, even if they are not
disreputable in reality, When meeting a gen-
tleman whom a lady has no objection to num-
bering among her acquaintances, she denotes it
IDE TO POLITENESS
by bowing first. Ifshe has any reason to disap-
rdve of his character or habits, she is perfectly
ustified in ‘* cutting ” him, as it is termed.
er bow very coldly the first time, and after that
notatall. When a lady is walking between two
entlemen she should divide her conversation as
equally as practicable, or address most of it to
the greater stranger to her. He to whom she is
least on ceremory will excuse her. If you stcp
a few minutes in the street to talk to an acquaint-
ance, draw to one side of the pavement, near the
wall, 80 as not to impede the passengers, or you
may turn and walk with her as far as the next
corner. And never stop to talk in the middle of
a crossing. To speak loudly in the street is un-
ladylike, and to call across the way to an
acquaintance is in execrable taste. It is best to
hasten over and speak to her if you have any-
thing of importance to say.
When a stranger offers to assist you over a
puddle, or something of the kind, do not hesitate
or decline as if you thought-he was taking an
unwarrantable liberty. He means nothing but
crvility, so accept it frankly, and thank him
for it.
On being escorted home bya gentleman a lady
fspeets he will not leave her till he has rung the
bell, and waited until she is actually im the
house, although it has been thought sufficient, by
men who know no better, to walk with her to the
font of the steps, and then take their departure,
leaving her to get in as she can.
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Places of Amusement.
To secure a good seat at any place of amuse-
ment go early. It is better to sit an hour before
the performance begins than to arrive after it
has commenced. ‘The time of waiting will soon
pass away in conversation with the friends whom
you have accompanied. hen practicable,
leave bonnets, hats, cloaks and hoods in the
apartment set apart for ladies, as itis very pain-
ful and fatiguing for those behind, moving the
head from side to side, and stretching the neck
this way and that, and peeping wherever a tan-
talizing glimpse can be obtained between the
hats or bonnets of ladies seated immediately in
front.
When invited to join a party begin to prepare
in ample time, 80 as not to keep them waiting for
you. When a large party is going to a place of
amusement (for instanee, the theatre or opera)
AND GOOD BREEDING.
it is better that each family should go thithir
from their own home (being provided with ther
own tickets), than that they should all rendeu.
vous at the house of one of the company, at the
risk of keeping the whole party waiting perhaps
for the very youngest members of it. When a
box has been taken, let the tickets be sent to all
the persons who are to have seats in it, and nut
retained by the taker of the box till the whole
party have assembled at the door of the theatre.
If the tickets are thus distributed, the persous
from each house can go when they please with-
out compelling any of the party to wait for them.
To make an entrance after the performance
has begun is (or-ought to be) very embartassing
to ladies, It excites the attention of all around,
diverting attention from the performance; anc
there is always, when the house is full and th°
hour late, some delay and difficulty in reaching
the seats even when they have been engaged.
-If it is a concert, where places cannot be pre~
viously secured, there are of course additional
reasons for going 1n due time, and the most stnsi-
ble and best-behaved part of the audience always
endeavor to do so. But if you are unavoidably
late be satisfied to pay the penalty by quietly
taking back seats, if no others are vacant. Young
ladies arriving after the performance had com-
menced, have been seen walking boldly up tothe
front benches and standing thero looking stead-
dastly in the faces of gentlemen who, with their
parties, had earned good seats by coming soon
after the dours were opened. The ladies per-
severed in this determined stare till they suc-
ceeded in dislodging these unfortunate gentle-
men, and compelling them to quit their seats, to
leave the ladies of their party, and stand for the
remainder of tho evening in a distant part of the
room.
To laugh deridingly or to whisper unfavorable
remarks during the performance of a somert or
a play is a rudeness of which no lady ought to
be guilty, Occasiona!ly are seen some of that
few who, much to the annoyance of those persons
near them who really wish to enjoy what they
came for, talk audibly in ridicule of the perform-
ers, the performers being, in all prebability,
hear cnough to hear these vexatious remarks,
and to be disconcerted by them. It is also a
gross breach of good breeding to anticipate the
“ good things. or destroy the interest of others
in the plot of the piece stating what yeu neawp,
know of either, ta those out you
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